Some people are born a natural mother. You can see it in their childhood. I am that person. As I look back I realize I was a mother waiting for a child. Mothering is part of who I am, my personality.
I remember my first doll, which came in this big box, she was so soft. I was her mother and she was my new baby. As I grew older, too old for dolls, I was the great baby sitter.
My dates with Kevin often included tag along kids, which I was mothering at that point. I knew what I wanted from Kevin, to get married and have a daughter.
All went well, just as plan… until I began to mother him and the baby. I figured he needed me to guide him and show him what to do. He had never been married and somehow, though I had never been married either, I thought I was the authority.
Because he loved me and wanted all to stay well, he allowed me to do so for a while. Then, he grew confident in the strength of our marriage and figured it was a good time to make me aware of my ability to be bossy.
All this time I thought I was taking care of him and the household, he viewed it as, pushy, bossy and controlling… hummmm. Well… I had to step back and do a bit of self-evaluation and I could see his point. I was mothering him, trying to protect him.
I stepped in the marriage in the wrong role. He is the head of the house. I am our children’s mother and his wife, not his mother, but his helpmeet as the bible describes it. It took a bit of time and trust, but I was eventually able to relinquish my out of line position and step into the roll God designed me to possess.
I am still a mother by nature, but age has taught me, somewhat how to keep it in perspective, now and then, I still may slip-up with friends and family. I usually realize it and attempt to straighten it out and retake my place of mothering only my grandchildren. Even my children are too old to be mothered, now. 🙁
Are you a natural mother? Are you labeled bossy, in charged, controlling? When in essence you only want to help people and show them what you think would work?
It so, you may be mothering those who don’t desire to be mothered, especially your husband. We can be a caring mother by nature, but we must be careful of who we are mothering. Love our husbands and mother our children. Any food for thought? Your thoughts and comments are always welcomed below.