The Sweetest Gesture Ever!

I visualized the event, as she told it, each moment as if I were there. I never met her husband nor could I tell you her name, but the story has made a romantic memory not only with her, but me too, just to know love and romance is alive and well, still living in the hearts of many.

I had the opportunity to stand and listen to a stranger as she shared with me one of the sweetest gestures I had heard in quite a while. Have you ever had someone tell a story and you get so caught up in it, that it brings tears to your eyes? I am just that kind of girl. I rejoice in other’s joy as well as my own.

This story showed the thoughtfulness of husbands.  As I listened I was impressed with her husband’s level of creative thinking. He may have not thought about the everlasting memory he made.

So what happened, you are wondering? It was their anniversary of many years and he made arrangements to spend the weekend in the mountains. After the car was all packed, he had to stop by the church to drop off a check. Continue reading “The Sweetest Gesture Ever!”

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Pick Our Family

Who is this person I married? Why did’t I see this coming. Who did I pick? The one time I get to pick, I picked a masked person! No… I was blindfolded by the opportunity.

We are always told, we can’t pick our family, right? Well, in essence, that is true …for the most part. If we could pick our families what would it be like? Perfect?

That can only happen if we don’t choose people. 🙂 There are no perfect people, so there are no perfect families. If they appear to be …just take a closer, deeper look.

Today, I heard someone say, “The one time we get to choose our family member we often mess it up.” See, we do get to choose our spouse, as we say, “I do,” for confirmation. In the process we often are more excited about the opportunity than the process.

This is one family member we get to pick, so it should be done carefully. It should not be rushed. We put more time in finding the right house than finding the right spouse.

We choose to impress rather than finding that which is best. Then, we are upset when we get them home, we note they are spending too much time on their phone. Continue reading “Pick Our Family”

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National Spouse Day!!!

Enjoy the time you two have together tonight …because tomorrow or the next National Spouse Day, may never be seen, seeing that time is not promised.

National Spouse Day! What an awesome gesture. I was told this, by a friends as I was working, today. I never heard of this day. Maybe this is it’s first year.

Nonetheless, I am excited that someone thought to have a day that celebrates marriage. So, though most of this day is over, the evening is still young …CELEBRATE! Nothing spectacular, just words of recognition or maybe a kiss.

It’s the small things in life that matter. When we learn to value marriage_ our time spent together becomes much more important than another wrapped gift …besides if you have many years together, what do you give, which hasn’t already been given?  You give more of your time. 🙂 That’s all that matters. 🙂

Point… Enjoy the time you two have together tonight …because tomorrow or the next NSD may never be seen, seeing that time is not promised. Give that spontaneous kiss, that hug, words of encouragement tonight, in celebration of this GREAT National Spouse Day!!! Enjoy! Now get off of social media and go make it GREAT! 😉

 

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Informal Education

It is often the early, informal education that teaches us to identify and not fall into things that are contradictory to our marriages.

There are several avenues of learning, one being informal education. Is it less valid, because it is informal? Certainly not. Some of the best lessons that are ever taught are done in informal settings, settings outside of the classroom.

The best thing about informal teaching, for me is… it’s free and often intimate. No monetary offerings needed, but we must know how to pick and choose, because everything that is free is not always good.

When we receive that informal education it helps us to develop our common sense. My mom always said, “There is no sense like common sense.”

Informal education can be very, very helpful in our marriages. When we see a great successful marriage, we should pick the couple’s brain to learn tools of what works and what usually doesn’t. That is an opportunity for a free, informal, valuable lesson. Continue reading “Informal Education”

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New Beginnings Spot Check

The married life is not a sprint; we must pace and train ourselves to become distant runners. Otherwise, we will burn out quickly and become ready to throw in the towel. Just like those resolutions.

 

“This is our year!” many of us shouted, “2017…this will be the best year EVER!” We made more New Year plans than we can truly digest. I guess we made them with good intentions; otherwise we wouldn’t have bothered, right?

Well …here we all stand in the line of progression or stagnation. It is nearing the end of the first month of this year. How do we all stand? Time for a spot check… Did we lose the five pounds, one, two or maybe three? Did we go back to church, find Jesus, spend that quality time with family, start that book, enroll in that class and spend more quality time with our spouses?

Yes …that is a lot to decipher, but often those are the goals we set …often, all at once and we set ourselves up for failure, every time. Let us learn to plan realistically. Most of our marriages fail because we have set up unrealistic goals and expectations for ourselves.

The married life is not a sprint; we must pace and train ourselves to become distant runners. Otherwise, we will burn out quickly and become ready to throw in the towel. Just like those resolutions. Continue reading “New Beginnings Spot Check”

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Who is Loyal?

Who is loyal? What is loyalty? I ordered a gift set from my client/friend a few weeks ago. When she brought the gift to me, I noted her hair was freshly serviced. I had to take a double take, seeing it wasn’t my work.

Not wanting to assume the obvious, I asked her had she just had her hair serviced, as I could smell the fresh products. She replied, “Yes.” Totally surprised and feeling territorial, I asked her, “You allowed someone else to do your hair?” She said, “…well, I just wanted to help her out a little bit, but I told her, ‘You know I’m loyal.'”

Well, she’s been my client and friend for over fifteen years and weekly client for about two years. After not seeing her for the following four weeks, I began to worry a bit about the sincerity of her “loyalty” statement. Well… she was true to her word. We are …now back in stride again …it seems. I’ve done her last two services.

To be loyal is to be faithful, true, devoted to a cause, a person or institution, Google says. To be loyal is a great character trait to possess. It is one that would be great, if we all possessed it, especially in marriage.

Spouses that are loyal have longer marriages. Spouses that are loyal have the tools to overcome adversities, because they work at it a bit harder and longer.

How loyal are we? We never know until it is put to the test. What we say and what we do are two different entities. Peter was so seriously loyal to Jesus in his heart soul and mind, until tested. In Matthews 26:35-43, He said he would die with Him if needed and his heart was sincere. However, he couldn’t do the simple task of watching as Jesus went away to pray. Later, He would deny him three times. Luke 22:54-62.

What will cause us to turn our hearts from our spouse; the spouse that we stood before God with and truly committed our hearts, …turning our head away from our spouse, thus turning our hearts away from our God? How loyal are we to our vows? Are we loyal in words and deeds or just in words as long as there is no need?

What can turn our hearts from our spouse? Would it be the lust of the eyes, the lust of the flesh, or the pride of life? Let us walk wisely, praying for our own hearts and our spouse’s heart. Pray that God protect our marriage. Pray that He give us the strength to identify and resist temptations.

Who is loyal? Our God is loyal and faithful and it is He that can keep our marriage safe, if we only ask Him. Cast our desires on Him, because He cares for us 1Peter 5:7. It can feel good to walk down the “Avenue of Trust,” with the one you love, not having the showers of “unfaithfulness” poured upon you. What is loyalty to you? Post your comment below.

 

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The Best Spouse Ever!

In marriage we must learn to be more grateful and appreciative of what we are blessed with even if it is only each other. That is a lot.

I heard a child say, yesterday, his mom is the best mom ever. I quickly knew that was a relevant statement. In one sense it was true, in his heart of love and in his little eyes, she is the best mom ever. In another sense, society’s standards may differ. “Best,” is always comparative. To be “best,” we must compare it to “worst,” “good” and “better,” right?

I never get into the comparative games of this world. You can never catch up. It’s like the rabbit with the carrot hanging over his head. The rabbit’s not smart enough to understand that the carrot dangles on a halo before his eyes, a carrot he can see, but never reach.

In marriage we must learn to be more grateful and appreciative of what we are blessed with even if it is only each other. That is a lot. There are many people who lone for a spouse, who loves them, the companionship of another being. Continue reading “The Best Spouse Ever!”

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Party Line

When we chose to privately, share our problems with a third party of the opposite sex, we are setting the stage up for adultery. Yes, that is what I said …adultery!

I can remember our first telephone, as a small child, having a party line. I know many are wondering, “What is a party line?” A party line is a shared telephone line with people you don’t know. When you pick up your phone to use it, someone may be on the phone already having a conversation. So you had to wait until they finished before you could use your phone.

Weird… I know, but that was the way it was in the early days of phone communication. Sometimes, it was two parties, often there were third parties. It could get very complicated.

In relating this to marriage, it too can become very complicated when we involve a third party or we are operating our marriage on a party line. When we bring friends into our marital bliss, they bring along opinions. Continue reading “Party Line”

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My Biggest Fan …So You Say

Are you a fans of your friends or your hobbies? Is it your job, your status, religious beliefs …wait… how can we put God in with all that other stuff that can distract us?

You are my biggest fan …so you say, but what does your character say? What does fans do? Well …fans support the cause. If I am a fan of an artist, I will buy their tickets, I will attend their events and I follow them, all because I am a fan, I support them.

…Because I am a fan, I show interest in their cause. I may be a fan and they never know my name, yet I positively promote and defend them and their cause to others.

Yesterday’s post was titled, “You are my Biggest Fan” and I left us with the thought of, “Your spouse should be your biggest fan and if that is not the case we need to do some marital evaluation. Continue reading “My Biggest Fan …So You Say”

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Your Biggest Fan

In other words, working to pleasantly please each other when ever you can, however you can, in service, not only in sexual nature but all around. Giving of yourself in an unselfish nature, esteeming your spouse higher than yourself, as stated in Philippians 2:3 is the art of service and becoming a fan.

Who’s your biggest fan? Who’s the person you can tell your darkest, most deepest secrets and not ever having to worry about them viewing you differently?

Who’s your shoulder to cry on and who wipes away all your tears? Who cries with you? Who always has your best interest at heart? Who’s the person that loves you unconditionally? That’s a hard one, right? Continue reading “Your Biggest Fan”

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