When marriage was designed, a man was ordered to leave and cleave …that is to leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, the bible tell us this in Genesis 2:24. However, that time seems so very long ago and things are different now, right?
Well, the world may change and people may change, but God’s words stay the same. “But, that’s in the Old Testament,” scholars may say, “We are living under the New Testament laws of today’s Christians.”
That is true, and the Old Testament is indeed for our learning. When a man …keyword,“man” becomes a husband, his major priority becomes his own wife. A wise person can learn from positive past experience, needing not to reinvent the wheel.
Now reverting back …this command was so very important that it was indeed brought to the New Testament, the law we stand under today. We can find the same stated scripture repeated again in Matthew 19:5.
It is also, often said in the marriage vows, as it is stated, ” “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”…remember that part?
It is natural to protect ourselves from harm, unsolicited damaging critiquing, and verbal abuse. Now that we are one flesh it should be natural to do the same for our spouse. When mom comes and say hurtful things about your wife, sorry …but mom now need to know that she is saying hurtful things about you too, because you chose her.
Son, if you respectfully, put mom in check, just a few times, she will learn where your heart truly is, but if she sees an opening, she will walk right in, verbally abuse, micro critique/manage your wife, try to run your household, through you and play two ends against the middle …you being the middle.
Now understand, there is a difference in sharing and caring and degrading, controlling comments. Son, when you become a man, it is time to leave momma’s arms and STAY in the arms of your own wife.
Daughter, it says, “man,” but this is the time for you, as well, to cleave to your own husband, not your father. You two are one flesh now. Do not compare your own husband to your dad. He is NOT your father.
This is the time for you two to create your own memories and not try to recreate the memories and traditions of your parents. You two are now one and when you defend and complement each other as such, love grows strong and deep.
I hope this writing on “Leave and Cleave,” inspires you to take a second look on how your marriage stands. Are you living as one flesh, as God has commanded or living together, but really separate and apart. If the latter is true, pray that the two can become one again.