We are always told, we can’t pick our family, right? Well, in essence, that is true …for the most part. If we could pick our families what would it be like? Perfect?
That can only happen if we don’t choose people. 🙂 There are no perfect people, so there are no perfect families. If they appear to be …just take a closer, deeper look.
Today, I heard someone say, “The one time we get to choose our family member we often mess it up.” See, we do get to choose our spouse, as we say, “I do,” for confirmation. In the process we often are more excited about the opportunity than the process.
This is one family member we get to pick, so it should be done carefully. It should not be rushed. We put more time in finding the right house than finding the right spouse.
We choose to impress rather than finding that which is best. Then, we are upset when we get them home, we note they are spending too much time on their phone.
After a few more months we don’t like their tone, they want work, have no desire for children, they don’t clean, but they are still on social media, spending all their time on their phone.
Who is this person I married? Why did’t I see this coming. Who did I pick? The one time I get to pick, I picked a masked person! No… I was blindfolded by the opportunity.
I heard a minster say once, no one should marry anyone that they have not known and dated for at least six months. Within that time most people will show you who they are. It is then, as Maya Angelou once said, “Believe them.”
What really happens is we try to mask and recreate. That is our error. Then, when the thrill is gone, we ask, What was I thinking? Whatever it was …we picked that family member. He/She is now bone of our bone and flesh of our flesh.
What do we do now that we are in a pickle? Whatever it takes, legally_ to make it work in God’s eyes and yours likewise. Most time it is simple, but we got to try to work through it, professional counseling, the church, whatever, remembering our vows.
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